Help! I think husband is using Meth again!

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Help!! I think hubby is using meth again!!

Hello all. I am new to this message board. And after reading a lot of posts from others on this board I think this may be a place where I can get advice. A little history here to help you all understand. About 10 years ago my husband and I both had bad meth and coke problems. We cleaned up on our own without any kind of rehab. I have remained clean for almost 10 years now but my husband has relapsed several times and I think he has again. About a year ago he admitted to me that he had been using again for about 2 years. He went back to work and everything was great!! The mood swings had stopped, our financial situation got better and things were back to normal. Now he's back out of work, hanging around his drug buddies again, money is coming up missing with no explanations, some of the moodiness is back, etc, etc. Here are some of the signs I am seeing again, Like I said the money missing with no explanations, some mood swings, some times of being paranoid, when he was using before he would over analyze things, that is happening again. Some of the tell tale signs that are not there is he is sleeping almost every night or at least I think he is I work night but when I get home in the morning he is usually sleeping, and he does eat meals. But after one of his trips to his friends he does act strange for a while. He still eats but not quite like normal, and he usually sleeps but he also spends a lot of time in our garage which is detached from the house and seems to have more energy than normal. But then after a matter of days or even close to a week those patterns stop and he spends a lot of time in our bedroom, eating more than normal, and gets moody, depressed, and sometimes very grumpy all of this continues until he can go see his friends again which is usually after I get paid and he has gas money to go (we live 50 miles from where his friends are). Then the other pattern starts again. I go through this with him every 2 weeks. The first week after I get paid and he can go to his friends he's in a great mood and very energetic and acting strange again. Then the second week after he's blown all of his money the other mood sets in. If he is using again I think he's limiting it for now anyway to try to throw me off so I don't find out or I'm being paranoid because of the people he's hanging around again. When I mention it that I think he's using again he tells me I'm crazy and there is no way he is doing it again and he cannot believe that I would even think of it again. Why can't I just let the past go? These are all of his comments. Which some of them make me even more suspicious. When that show was on National geographic about meth I tried to get him to watch it with me stating I wanted to learn more about this because of our 2 teenage daughters. He wouldn't even look at it. He went out into the garage and stayed away from me most of the night. I watched it and in some parts felt like they were talking about him. In the way he acts sometimes. Being a former user myself it's sometimes easier to detect a user but he is really good at hiding things. We have been married for 17 years and I love him with all my heart I want to see him get help if the problem does still exist. I don't know what to do!!! This is all taking a bad toll on me emotionally and financially. If anyone has advice please email me privately. It is easier for me to respond via email than here. I seem to be limited on how many posts I can read per day.

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