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How do you talk to your Meth Addict?
chick
peakiwi |
how do you talk to your meth addict?
I was talking to my
ex-addict b/f today. He kept saying that he couldn't see how
talking to a counselor would help him get over all the bad &
hurt he has experienced in his life due to his meth use. He says
he cant get over all the losses in his life me being one of
them. The fact that he thinks he can just stay clean because he
now realizes why he had F**ked his life is because of his use is
enough to keep him away from it NOW. Is this still denial
talk..to avoid his addiction...sounds like it?
So how would you answer this question? |
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TnSkye |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
For the most part, just
knowing how bad they've messed up does not keep them clean. They
need tools to know how to avoid and deal with triggers.
My husband used all kinds of excuses to avoid dealing with his
addiction too. He did finally talk to a counselor but called it
off before long because he hadn't learned where his anger came
from.
DUH.
I didn't wait for my husband to seek treatment though. I set out
seeking my own recovery for myself. Then, instead of waiting on
him to make decisions, I was able to make my own. |
Penelope |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
Talk to him like you
would talk to anyone else - say what you mean, and mean what you
say. Don't be manipulated - would you take that from a non -
addict?
Just knowing how bad I messed up was more of an excuse for me to
use. In my head, there was no way out of the mess I made of my
life anyway, so why NOT keep using?
I had to figure it out myself - my life sucked because of my
addiction. People suggested to me that I needed help, and that
was OK - in hindsite, I should have listened to them.
Unfortunately, nagging didn't work, enabling didn't work,
nothing worked until I realized it for myself.
There is nothing wrong with suggesting to an addict "YOU need
some help..." just don't be too dissappointed if he doesn't take
your advice. |
nano
banano |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
How do you talk to an
addict? Wow! That's a good question....from my experience you
don't and you can't!
Unless you enjoy having one sided conversations with a narrow
minded WALL!!!! LOL
I get more rational responses talking to my cats.....and we all
know how they do whatever they want whenever they please!!
Good luck honey! Wish I had answers for you!
Luv and hugs sent your way!
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XOutlaw
Woman |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
The more you push, the
further away he will go. Let it go and let him figure it out.
Sometimes we are the only ones who can help ourselves. |
chick
peakiwi |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
Interesting what you have
all said. I understand about the nagging. He told me the more I
go on about his problem it is like the further away he feels
(from me).
You cant win alright. Narrow-minded is so true. Still feel like
I'm talking to a brickwall. I can tell that he is saying things
to me that I WANT to hear. I mean he is trying to get back in my
good books.
He has told me straight up, give me another chance several
times. Im sure many here have heard that one before.
I am leaving him to his own devices, so hard setting boundaries
though, I dont want to seem like I've abandoned him, I mean he's
still got a little of the old him in there.
I really dont know how to talk to him so I dont give him false
hope of us getting back together. He asks what he should do now.
I say YOU decide what is best for you, I cant tell you what to
do with your life now. He says I need a definate otherwise I
could be wasting my time improving my life, with no guarantee
that I will take him back...does this sound familiar to anybody
?
He even said to me that he can do it (quit cold turkey) because
he is "brighter" than other addicts he knows. Oh lordy. Now I've
heard it all. |
sick
and
tired77 |
Re: how do you talk to your meth addict?
The best advice I can
give you (if you choose to say anything) is to tell him that he
has to do it for himself.
Basically what you've already been telling him!
If he feels like it's a waste of time unless you'll take him
back, then he's certainly not seeing the big picture.
Something has to "click" for him to realize quitting will make
HIS life better... not YOURS.
It IS hard to set boundaries when we love them. But it'll be
well worth it in the long run!
I know I'm telling you things you already know... it's been a
long day, sorry if I'm rambling!
Hang in there, sweetie! |
See also:
When your addict is ready to talk
Approaching a meth user about their addiction
Is there any talking a meth addict into quitting?
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