Intervention question - Husband doesn't have any close friends

4molly

Intervention Question

My husband withdrew a substantial amount of money from our checking account a few days ago. I have had it. And, I know it's time to try something different.

Have any of you dealt with an intervention that was successful based on only a couple of family members or friends present?

Based of the books I have read and talking an interventionalist the more people there to share their "letter to the addict" the better. My problem is that my husband is not close to anyone. So I don't have a lot of people to say "this is how your addiction has affected me".

Also, any recommendations for an interventionalist would be much appreciated. Please say a prayer for me. I am really having a bad day.

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sherman

Re: Intervention Question

This is Patti, Sherman's wife. He is the addict in our relationship. I wish I could give you advice regarding an intervention. I can't. I will tell you that I have been through the same financial problems you are going through now. Start your own private checking account. Keep the check blanks somewhere safe-I keep mine hidden all the time, usually locked in the glove compartment of my car so they aren't in the house with him. Don't leave anything of value for granted. Sherman hocked our wedding bands, stole an expense check out of the mailbox. If you are expecting money in the mail, have the mail held at the post office. You have to protect yourself. Good luck with your intervention. I pray that all goes well for you.

luve
piphany

Re: Intervention Question

Molly, in that book, Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (A Hazelden Guidebook), all about intervention, it speaks to the issue of the typical meth addict that has alienated his family and any or most non-user friends and suggests different ideas about speaking with the old family members who might still wish to participate-even if the addict isn't close now. My addict is also not close to anyone but me and a bunch of addicts though one of his sisters has been trying to get to know him now after little communication for years. The book says to just think carefully and talk with the group about someone who may be antagonistic and weigh the possible positive results of that person's input-maybe even just have them send a letter. I personally think that if intervention is planned, it's probably time to get the "leader" picked and then the secretary who keeps track of all the contact info. I'm just telling you what I've read in the book and what I used to dream of doing with my addict....I don't see it happening now. Good luck and God bless your work.

4molly

Re: Intervention Question

I have talked to an interventionalist tonight. It's funny that you mentioned that book. He told me to read it, and I said hey I already have. I don't know what to do. But as you know if you do the same thing you get the same results. I am ready for different results. AND BOY AM I SCARED TO DEATH. Thanks for the post. 4molly

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