notold
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Why do people not help other support groups like AA or
Al-Anon?
I use to be in
Alanon years back.
Every once in a while this forum has someone that had been
through a support group like Alanon/Naranon and or an alcoholic
that's been through AA now on a meth run.
Why is it that people that have gotten help from these types of
support groups don't return to them first thing when things go
bad?
I'm wondering if it would be because while they went through the
program... they didn't really work it or grasp the concepts?
Any thoughts? |
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teqa
peq |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
Pride
comes to mind
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| Loraura |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
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Why is it that people that have
gotten help from these types of support groups don't return
to them first thing when things go bad?
Perhaps because they KNOW they can't keep
alcohol (or their previous drug of choice) under control, but
feel that perhaps a different drug, would be OK. They would be
able to handle it. It wouldn't cause their lives to become
unmanageable. |
notold
ash |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
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Perhaps because they KNOW they can't
keep alcohol (or their previous drug of choice) under
control, but feel that perhaps a different drug, would be
OK. They would be able to handle it. It wouldn't cause their
lives to become unmanageable.
But aren't these programs teaching that an
addict needs to avoid all and any substances?
My reason for asking is because I plan to get involved in alanon
or something for loved ones of addicts. I was a spouse and I
don't ever want to walk this path again. I realize there are no
guarantees in life but I DO want to learn and change in my own
recovery so that I can someday be part of a healthy
relationship.
Am I putting too much hope and faith in a program such as Alanon? |
luve
piphany |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
I don't
know, I have kept the wisdom and all from AA/NA since I was 18
and I went right to Alanon and Naranon as soon as I was reminded
with the H3ll of addiction affecting my life. I remembered all
after my first meeting. I had given away my literature but
bought it right away because I new how much it would help.
People are just so different
Nta,
Alanon/Naranon are programs for positive spiritual LIVING for
you. I plan on staying in Alanon at least for the rest of my
days if I can, even if it's just visits. I know I will have an
Alanon family just about anywhere I go in the world and will be
welcomed and loved by them. It is MY program and MY family and I
like that.
I learn things there that I haven't ever learned anywhere
else..
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| Loraura |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
You get
out of it what you put into it.
Period.
Regardless of which 12 step program you participate in.
Are you looking for a reason not to go and give Alanon a try?
Quote:
But aren't these programs teaching
that an addict needs to avoid all and any substances?
Doesn't matter what they teach when an
addict let's self-will take over and drive.
Falling for one's own denial generator (thoughts) can easily
make relapsing on a different drug seem like it's not a problem.
Perhaps for some it isn't.
Some people have to find out the hard way by going out again, on
a different drug, to realize that for them, it doesn't matter
what the drug is. |
notold
ash |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
Quote:
Are you looking for a reason not to
go and give Alanon a try?
Nope just making sure it's what I think it
is. I pretty much figured you get out of it what you put into
it.
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| Loraura |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
Suggestion: Leave your expectations behind, and just go to
meetings and listen.
If you have expectations set up in advance, you are setting
yourself up to be angry if those expectations aren't met.
Leave those thoughts behind, and go with an open mind.
The only thing I needed to know was that it worked for millions
of other people. I'm not so unique that it couldn't work for me,
too.
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notold
ash |
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
Will Do
Lauraua! Thanks for the advice. |
