| nobody |
Behavior problems quitting meth
Cussing, screaming at
everything, everybody, making no sense.If we are nice to him, he
goes crazy.If we try to confront his bad behavior, he goes
crazy. We decided the best thing to do was to not be around him.
We would leave. He don't like that either. What is happening
here? Is he high? Is there something we should do for him?
Please, please help us. |
| Replies... |
eyesopen
83 |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
personaly i would say
that he is suffering from some sought of psycosis due to the
drugs...going crazy like dosent sound like any sought of high
that ive ever seen....
i just wanna make it clear that if he has been using meth,and is
goin "crazy"...you are not in a safe enviroment... |
NumbTo
Drug
Addicts |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
Well when my husband is
up on Ice, he dont do too much of anything except tweek...he
doesnt yell or screem he hides out by himself watching for
people he suspects are watching him, then when he comes down he
sleeps...mostly he is up for days so he sleeps for days as well,
ive seen him though sleep for a few hours and get up get high
again the take downers to come back down..he says if he gets way
down the high is even better...the only time ive seen him angry
is when he dont have the dope at hand to do, but he's not mad at
me he gets angry at his supplier....best to you there...i hope
you find what is bothering him...look for the signs...look for
the actual evidence... |
| nobody |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
I'm thinking that he has
been high for a few days and maybe he doesn't have any now.
Would that make him like this?
Eyesopen, psycosis? I don't understand. You have not seen a high
like this. Would it be from no meth? From what I have read here
I thought he should be sleeping if he don't have any. |
| Hemetchik |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
yeah...when i was high..i
was quiet....looking out...tweaking..when i ran out of
dope...THEN ALL HELL broke loose..i was QUEEN BIZITCH....a rabid
dog...all in my way were screamed at...including my children...
probably out..needs rest...once he can get to the point of going
to sleep...then move from there...when we are in this state of
mind...well there is no reasoning..we are unreasonable. |
| JUSTCATS |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
It could be from not
having any meth, but I would guess, that he has had no sleep in
a long time too. It's hard to say... If the situation is out of
control, please leave, for your own safety. He will not react,
like a normal human being when he is tweaked out... He could do
"anything" - especially if he is already paranoid. |
| nobody |
Out of control/Can you help us please
I think he must be
paranoid. The screen door was locked and we could not get in. We
never lock the screen. He became angry that we were home but we
live there.
Hemetchik, thank you. I understand what you are saying. Rabid
dog describes him good. I have not seen him like this. Leads me
to so many other questions. I will have to do a lot more
reading. I don't like to post alot. I can usually find what I
need by reading.
Any chance that he would hurt himself? If he needs sleep, why is
he still up? We tried to get him to lay down and rest. I think
this is not good. |
| Hemetchik |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
um..hurt himself..well is
he talking about hurting himself? there is always a possibility
of him hurting you or himself..we are not in our right
mind...paranoia is the worst...we believe what we hear and see
to be real and if we tell people to "look" and they dont see
it..then this can freak us out even more.
you cant make him sleep or rest...just try to get him to
eat...and drink fluids...let him have his tantrums on his
own...being around them will probably cause him to say nasty and
hateful stuff to you...
i know you love him, just try to stay out of his way until he
sleeps...it does no good to preach..lecture or tell him how
wrong he is..he is in no condition to talk of recovery while
angry... |
| nobody |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
Hemetchik, thank you so
much. We will just leave him alone. He has not said he would hurt
himself.I just didn't know if he might. He gets so angry if we
say we will leave. And yes, he is saying horrible things. He has
the whole family in tears. Everyone is upset. I'm thinking he
cannot help this behavior right now. I am so grateful to all. |
| Hemetchik |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
PLEASE DONT FEEL SORRY
FOR HIM...i feel for you and your family...as an addict myself,
i have put many people through hell with my selfish behavior...
what are YOU GOING TO DO now..are you going to stand behind him
and hope he gets well? you have to take care of you..yes he is
sick, but this sickness has a cure...he has to want it..nothing
you do or say will make him choose getting clean...it cant be
forced.
but like i said, now is not the time...i suggest coda or some
sort of support group...getting information is good..but you
need a life too. |
| nobody |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
Okay, we got thru the
night. He is sleeping now. I am a bit confused about what
happened today.
Hemetchik, I do feel sorry for him. It is so sad. I think this
is probably wrong but what is in my heart. I feel sorry (not
pity) for people here. The struggles, the pain you go thur.
ForgetSuzette makes me cry. I can't believe any of you asked to
be where you are. I understand it was a choice made to do the
drugs but had you been able to look into the future and see how
bad it would mess up your life would you have done it anyway?
I remember what Penelope said, about how when people felt sorry
for her, she used them. I know this is right but can't help how
my heart feels.
I do appreciate you all so much. It is good to have people help
you when you don't know what to do or expect. I want to
understand more about what he was going thru yesterday. I don't
understand at all. If I can figure out the right questions to
ask, I might post later. Thanks to all again. |
nineyears
clean |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
Quote:
I'm thinking that he has been high
for a few days and maybe he doesn't have any now. Would that
make him like this?
THAT would make him like this. Been up for too many days, and
now, no dope. Argh!
He probably does want to sleep, but not until he lines up (pun
intended) his next score.
He's a full blown addict, or at least that what it sounds like
to me from what little you told us. I remember being right where
he is.
I'm sorry. I agree that you are not safe living in a home with
someone that aggravated. Be careful sweetheart. |
| Lisa |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
I think there's a
difference between "feeling sorry" for someone and understanding
what they're going through.
In my mind, compassion and pity are two completely different
things. Pity won't and can't help anyone through bad times, but
compassion for someone's plight goes a long way towards helping
that person heal.
I never wanted nor needed pity or anyone "feeling sorry" for me,
but I did desperately want and need someone to understand why I
was feeling and/or acting the way I did (and continue to do).
Sympathy never helped anyone.
Empathy makes a person feel like they're not alone in the world.
Just my two. |
| nobody |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
Lisa, that was so well
said. I want, no I need, to understand what is going on with
him. I want to understand the anger he felt. I want to
understand why he does the things he does. I want to know what he
is feeling when he is high. I want to know what he is feeling
when he is not high. I want to understand.
I think I said it wrong when I said I felt sorry for him and
people here. Compassion is a much better word. I read the
stories and the comments and my heart breaks. I want to gather
you all in my arms and love you to being clean and health.
Silliness on my part but how I feel.
The struggles of not using, the pain you go thur. It is so sad
to me. The ones that have beat the addiction but still feel
damaged. I feel so bad for you. I feel so bad for the addict in
my life.
No, not pity, not pity at all. Just love and a horrible sadness
inside.
Thank you. Very well said. |
| Lisa |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
I understand how you
feel.
I've been in love with two addicts in my life, and my heart went
out to them because I've been there and know firsthand the
brutality of addiction.
The good news is you don't have to sink to the depths of
addiction to learn to understand what we go through. Just
reading, learning and keeping an open mind and heart can
accomplish the same thing (although for real, true compassion,
nothing beats losing everything to a drug...LOL!)
You obviously have an extremely caring and loving nature; two
wonderful qualities, in my opinion!
Just be careful not to let your addict take advantage of you
(which they will do if they can; it's the nature of the addict).
It's very easy to fall into the trap of becoming an enabler.
Either way, it's hell to be an addict, and it's hell to be the
loved one of an addict.
I wish you all the best!!!! |
Crystal
Clear |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
I've been in a similar situation
with ex-boyffriend...
Indeed, it is difficult to stand by and watch someone turn into
a stranger right before your eyes. Very confusing.
Gain all the knowledge that you can. From my experience, trying
to "understand" and make sense of things just became more
destructive to me. Until I realized that the person using the
Meth. was not rational on any level, I could not find peace.
Once I accepted that he was "Outta' his mind", I removed him
from my life. This does not mean that I do not love him, it does
not mean I don't care about him, it does not mean that I don't
pray for him. It means that I am powerless to do anything about
his choices.
So, I let the concequences of HIS choices be just
that....CONCEQUENCES. I haven't seen him in almost 6 months ...
and have spoken to him once. It is a hard thing to do ... that's
for sure. Really hard. But I assure you, that he will take you
down with him as long as he is denying that he has a problem,
and continues to use.
I got some books on Co-Dependence ...Co-Dependent No More by
Melody Beattie as well as The Language of Letting Go were a
start for me. Also I have attended a few CODA meetings - all of
which have helped me to find a level of "understanding".
I wish you the best, and take care of yourself and kids. You
can't take care of him. He needs to do that. |
| jacksmom |
Re: Behavior problems quitting meth
I agree with the 'feeling sorry
for'... I feel 'sorry for' folks like this more out of empathy
than anything. It's sad to see how some people have chosen to
live their lives, or end up having been led in a wrong
direction, when mine is so good.
Enabling is a whole other issue!
As far as the rabid dog syndrome...YEP! When Jack crashed is
when she was horrible! That's when I'd test for drugs not
knowing she was actually 'cool' when she was using.
And...good lord! When she went off for good we had to deal with
an almost 3 month 'crash'! |
