roxys
homie
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My girlfriend on meth...
why!!!..
i met this girl a few months ago, she is 22 and me and her
connnected very well with our personalities, the problem is i have
tried and tried and tried again to get through her head about her
meth smoking problem, and all she does is laugh it off... i, she is
very beatiful too and has been smokin it for 3 years now...but she
is a f#%kign @#%$ that cant open her eyes!!!!! and yes i admit i
tried it a few times..
I THANK GOD im not addicted to it!
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XOutlaw
Woman
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My girlfriend on meth...
Unfortunately there is not much you can do. If she does not think
she has a problem, no amount of trying to convince her will change
her mind. You can learn a lot here about how not to help her
continue to use. Read some of the posts. She is not going to change
until she is ready. Bottom line. |
Just
Ol Ma |
My girlfriend on meth...
Hi hon
and welcome to the forum.
What do you do? You take care of you and if that means walking away,
then do so.
She won't quit for you, she won't accept the help you offer, and
even if she seems to be accepting help she will be using it and you.
She will quit when she is ready, when she can do it for herself.
When that will be not even she knows.
Hon, at this point you are in love with an image...you spoke of
personalities...the personality she has presented to you is the
personality meth is allowing her. You haven't even met the real
woman yet.
Stay, love her and there is cost, huge cost...do you love her enough
not to count it? And how much do you love yourself? Because the self
love will diminsh little by little, being replaced with pain and
fear.
We say loving a meth addict is an investment. It is up to you to
decide how much of an investment you are willing to give...
But if you are going to love her, it is better to be ready not to
count the cost. |
Walked
in
your
shoes |
My girlfriend on meth...
Do
yourself a favor and walk away and don't look back she's going to
cause you nothing but grief I know that for a fact I was in the same
spot you are the only difference is I had over 10 yrs invested (wasted)in
what I thought was a relationship but come find out it was all lies
all the I love you's ,your my soulmate ,no one will ever take your
place don't mean @#%$ in the end her soulmate is in her pipe ! |
Just
Ol Ma |
My girlfriend on meth...
God
didn't. She picked up meth and took herself away. |
Walked
in
your
shoes |
My girlfriend on meth...
I know
how you feel! It's not easy but after awhile you'll see you're
better off w/o her I can tell you what you have to look forward to
she'll lie ,use,cheat,and steal from you and not have any shame ,remorse,or
guilt I can guarentee it She's probably already done all of the
above so don't feel bad or like you're abandoning her because she
didn't feel bad when she abandoned you |
roxys
homie
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My girlfriend on meth...
I TALKED
TO HER TODAY ON THE PHONE.. AND I FEEL BAD FOR HER.......I HAD HER
CRYING AND DEPRESSED..
I DONT WANNA HURT HER NO MORE..
but @#%$ it.. she chose a life of miseralbe lonelieness and death
how sad and disgustin to see a girl i once loved destroy herself
with her glass dick |
Walked
in
your
shoes |
My girlfriend on meth...
You're
going to the same place I'm coming back from and all I can tell you
is its gonna get worse you're going to the same place I'm coming
back from believe me when I tell you I feel your pain good luck! |
roxys
homie
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My girlfriend on meth...
i want
her to come back to me .
her life is full of true loneliness!\\
and now i abanndoned her, just like everyone else has...
i was truly there for her for whenever... but i ended up another
victim and she doesnt wana talk to me
.... but i realize that the @#%$ will always love her glass pipe...
thats what she really loves..
and i wish nothing but the best for her in life.
il never hate her.. but i hate what she is turning into
and that is a worthless terrible mother on drugs..
how sick... |
walked
in
your
shoes |
My girlfriend on meth...
I know
how it feels but don't make the same mistake I did and think you can
help her because you can't ! I can tell you exactly what you have to
look forward too and it's nothing I'd wish on anybody not even her.
Let her go she left you along time ago |
joplin
burns
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Re: My girlfriend on meth...
been
there done that...hon she will only quit when she is ready....my x
too use to cry alot and tell me things were going to change but, the
fact is that it doesnt. Not for yo anyway. They have to want to walk
away from this evil drug. Let her go and deal with her addiction.
Otherwise it will rule your life too. Dont lose 2 1/2 years of your
life with an addict like I did. their are others out their that you
will connect with. I am a saver....hell if I could have got my x off
the dope we would still be together because when I met him he was
the perfect guy for me.....it takes time to get over but, at least
you are early enough in your relationship that you will bounce back
a little quicker. Dont pull yourself down. She now knows you dont
like it.... so now is when she will start hiding it from you. Let
her heal....then when the timing is right maybe you will be able to
see the real her. Some times we are just savers and when we cant
save or they are saved then the feelings go away.....just a thought
lol good luck. |
Haley
79
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My girlfriend on meth...
You seem
like a very passionate person.
I am too.
People like us are devoted and determined and eager...and also
pretty intense. It's not a bad quality. Feeling passionate about
something/someone can give your life meaning...make it feel worth
living.
At the same time, you do have to be careful. It's very easy to get
wrapped up in something and lose sight of everything else. It almost
becomes an obsession. The problem usually arrises when things don't
go the way we'd hoped. We've already given so much of ourselves,
that when, what we were focused on, is gone, we feel
empty...defeated...devistated.
I think you should try to take a step back and evaluate your
relationship realistically. It's only been a few months and you
already say you love her, which, may very well be true. There are
many degrees of love. Do you feel like you share the kind of love
that will keep you together forever--through thick and thin? It's
tough sometimes.
You mentioned, a couple times, that she's very pretty. Attraction is
important in a relationship and it's obvious that you are attracted
to her. That's good. I just hope that her physical appearance isn't
one of the main reasons you're drawn to her...if she's doing meth,
her looks are gonna fade very fast. Will you still love her if her
teeth rot and her hair falls out? Consider it, because if she
continues to use, it's very possible.
Also, you said that you've never tried meth. I envy you.
Be so very careful, my fellow passionate one, I guarantee that if
you stick around, there's a good chance she'll try to convince you
to try it. She'll claim that it's not that bad and you should see
for yourself. If this day ever comes, turn and run as fast as you
can.
You can't save people who aren't ready to be saved. Walk away. If
it's meant to be, you'll figure it out...just not while she's still
using.
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XOutlaw
Woman
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Re: My girlfriend on meth...
If she
has been smoking meth for 3 years, and you have known her for a few
months, do the math. You do not truely know this girl's real
personality. You know a girl on meth. What you see is a personality
on drugs. Not the real thing at all. Just my two cents, for what
it's worth. |
danimal
55
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My girlfriend on meth...
Immnna
concur with XOW, it's tough to truly know someone who's tweaked all
the time. We see the extremes of emotions but never see the "level"
nature of the true person.
The best thing you can do for her is live clean and sober, someone
in her condition will often find it very attractive and want it for
themself. Recovery cannot be forced upon an addict regardless of
what we say or how we say it.
One thing is for sure, there will never be an easier time to recover
than NOW, each gram takes us farther away from ourself. How old is
she? and where is her family? |
XOutlaw
Woman
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My girlfriend on meth...
Her mind
is dulled due to drug abuse. It is hard to think fast on go-fast. I
do not know what you mean by will she ever be the same. You do not
know what she was like before her addiction, so what is "the same"?
Personally I am not the same. I used meth for about 5 years.
Snorting and smoking. It has affected me in many ways that may not
even be apparent yet. I am a different person now than I was when I
was a user. A better person. She may get better too. Her physical
state will improve, as will her mental state, if she stays off the
shyt. She will continue to go downhill if she continues to use. |
danimal
55
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My girlfriend on meth...
The drug
is the liar, it fools our brain to believe nothing but lies &
illusions. One thing is true, your friend loves you and cares deeply
for you, regardless of what that lying demon drug would have you
believe.
I think it's great that you're here, that shows huge strength and
courage on your part. If you want to stop using, keep coming here,
and pay no mind to what others are doing, this is about you! we know
what your going through and we know how to change it. You have a lot
of friends here that you need to meet, count me in We're here 4u
24/7 Welcome!
Gotta type this.... [again]
What you are is Gods gift to you.
What you make of yourself is your gift to God. |
XOutlaw
Woman
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My girlfriend on meth...
Not ALL
of us are saying to walk away. My bf stuck it out with me when I
decided I wanted to quit. He did not walk away. We have been
together for a year and a month now with me off the stuff. Prior to
that he just wanted to be "friends". He knew how messed up I was,
and still loved me more than I loved myself. He gave me the
incentive to keep on going without drugs. |
