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My Meth Husband

cannon 5738	My meth husband Well its been going on 4 days and he seems to be doing fine He is doing really great not being moody and today he told me hes home as in "baby Im Home". We erased all his contacts that are in or near it plus he had a call yesterday and told them he don"t @!@##$ with the !@#$# anymore I was proud of him....I can tell that he had hit bottom cause he realizes that he was acting all crazy and stuff and is ashamed he let it get that far.....He is actually been spending time with us and enjoying it....I am still going to keep my eyes and ears open so that he knows that its a everyday issue to kick this desease that he let grab him
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danimal 55	Re: My meth husband It's prime time to seek the help of others and get the reinforcement he so badly needs. We're recovery dummies when we first begin to abstain and our brut determination is NOT enough to keep us clean, besides it is WAY easier to recover with the support and understanding of others who've been there. Swearing off and whitknuckling it is a miserable way at best to beat this addiction, why go it alone? Our best thinking is not where the answers lie, we must put our trust and faith in those who have made it out and stay there, a tough order fo a meth addict who relys entirely on foolish pride and addict ego. When we know that we don't know...then we know. THEN we are receptive to those that do know, recovery is a vast universe with so much to learn and embody. Hubby might wish to consider getting involved in a program such as NA/AA/CMA, 12 steps to freedom can make the difference when nothing else seems to. The eat, sleep, and drink cycle is nearing its end, the promises and apparent "changes" will wear thin as the relentless cravings begin to take hold again. The addiction WILL COME CALLING, I guarantee it! when it does, he can be ready, trust me whiteknuckling it won't last, we need each other and the principals of recovery that continue to save our butts. Hubby can realize this now, or he can realize it later, hopfully not too late.
cannon 5738	Re: My meth husband Thank you for your reply I have been reading all this to Dan He dont like it when someone tells him he can't do it alone he said that it gives him more determination wich i think he is just being stubborn Dan said he smoked maryjane for 20 years and quit when he wanted to of course he started back up when he got hurt and hasn't been able to work about 2 years ago I personally don't understand it throughout my years i have tried drugs annd never like pot/or the other stuff it was just not my kind of world Dan don't drink achohal I do he does drugs I dont I see him tonight his mood is starting to change he wont admit it but says he allright kinda pissy acting He said its because of all the !@#%% he has to get done outside he is thinking of the junkyard he has made outside and were to start to get it cleaned up since there was so many projects going on
danimal 55	Re: My meth husband The dragon is returning to bite him in the ass. Now the all important "junkyard" is where he wants to be, good 'ol Inspector Gadget, once again! Tweaking in the junkpile, what in the hell does that have to do with recovery, Dan? So the cycle repeats.....Time will tell. Hubby can do this his way, whatever that is. That pride, ego, and arrogance ARE the enemy, disguises of our true self. What needs cleaned up is the addiction, that does'nt happen in the junkpile. Frankly, the addiction IS the real junkpile, the crap in the yard is incidental. But Dan, like most of us, will learn the hard way, what I'm telling you WILL make sense one day. Dan? who knows.......I wish him the best, but I surely don't expect anything. Real men get help and stop torturing their families.... The rest go tweak in the junkpile. Surrender.....without it we're sunk! Guaranteed. 12 steps to freedom...why wait?
Nana44	Re: My meth husband danimal... you give me hope, make me smile and definitely brighten my days. *Quote:* Real men get help and stop torturing their families What is it about men that makes them think that they don't need help with their "personal" problems ? If it were a leaky faucet or a transmission problem they'd be calling everybody they know to get help!
desp house wife	Re: My meth husband Well said Girl, you make me proud of my gender!! Hit it right on the head, if it were a transmission problem, then they call in the calvery, but..Meth, it;s a weakness, an uncontrolable weakness, and he's a man. I do wish you the best..listen up here, esp. to danimal, he knows his sh$t, so mant others, Pen, tell him, Nyte Passion, when she posts you'll want to print it, profound to say the least, also my Mr. Clean , These peeps helped me invest in myself!! And I'm not a user!! Yet they helped me,imagine what they can do for you!!
cannon 5738	Re: My meth husband I am just happy i found this site I have learned so much over the last few days reading and getting advice I believe that if he wants it bad enough he can get the !@#$# off his back but if he is lying to hiself and me I dont think i can go back to the crazyness and bull##$%^ again He keeps asking me if i told you that his reason for getting into the stuff was cause he couldn't keep up with everything/pressure etc wich i told him theres no excuse for it...he still needs to realize that it is his actions that got him were he is at he is so bullheaded it makes me sick at times
emme 1121	Re: My meth husband thats great to hear! i'd be sure to keep ears and eyes open because he's likely to relapse which sometimes is better off doing it one more time to help with the addiction. but here maybe in a couple of months his depression will set in and be the same way he was on the meth. all i can say is support him because i know i needed someone who cares to help slow me down before i killed myself. i hit rock bottom and i hit it hard.