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Does it mean he's not ready to stop meth?
| clickmom |
Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
I
already posted another question, sorry I just have so many
thoughts in my head right now...
If he's saying he really really wants to get high, that he
enjoys it, that he doesn't see the positive of stopping yet
(even though he has for 10 days)...that he feels he's at a
crossroads...that he feels he's not convinced yet, that he feels
he hasn't hit rock bottom "yet"....are those all indicators that
he's truly not ready to stop? Is the treatment program he's in
even going to reach him? What is the reality of this?
Also, this is so crazy, but why have I been now curious to try
this @#%$ since he's been seriously doing something about this
10 days ago? I've never done meth in my life, and yet all of a
sudden I want to get high with him to see what its like? Is this
normal?? No, I won't do it or try it, but the thoughts came to
my head...and I was like wtf? |
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| Loraura |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
Treatment programs CAN reach addicts, even if they are forced
into treatment, in my opinion.
There's no guarantee it will "work" in the way you expect it to
work. Something he hears in treatment NOW may be the seed that
gets him clean now, or months from now, or years from now.
In my opinion, the reality is -- there are no guarantees. There
are no promises.
I don't think that it is unusual to be curious as to what the
HELL is so good about this drug that seems to be all bad. you
see all the bad, yet you see him still wanting it. So you're
curious as to just exactly what IS IT that's SO dang good to be
worth all the bad. |
| clickmom |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
Thanks Laura. So I may have to face the fact that this might
just be a first step into recovery that may take place years
from now...
Well, I hope its sooner than later for his sake.
I have to leave work now. Be back later. Thank you. |
| Loraura |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
That first step is a doozey though!
Try to be thankful that he's taken ANY step at all.
Some addicts never do. |
| jes78 |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
i
went into forced treatment, and although i have a resentment or
two, i have not used in over 2 yrs. at first, i saw nothing
wrong w/ using, just like your addict. after a little while
clean, my head cleared and i saw the light. my mom, who is a
nurse, once said, "what is w/ this drug and you, i want to see
what u like so much about it" and she never did it.
good luck to you and your addict |
BentBut
Not
Broken1 |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
Wanting to stop someone from using and at the same time
wondering what was so "great" about it got me tied up with meth
myself for six months. I dreamt last night about my cravings
three nights ago and that started my day off kind of rocky. I
read some of my journal entries while using and the day smoothed
out.
I wish the best for him while he's in treatment |
| clickmom |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
I talked to him today and
he said he went to the program and left. Said he didn't feel
good. Whatever. Didn't feel good probably because he wanted to
get high. Its Friday and he wanted to go get high. He went home
and stayed there, so I know he probably used. His mom said she
cleaned out his room two days ago and threw out his pipes.
Doesn't mean he didn't go out and get another one. Probably had
to leave early so he could go get that.
I'm so angry right now. Angry for allowing myself to bend over
backwards this past 10 days, putting my own needs on the back
burner. But its what I chose. No one to blame but myself.
So, here I sit on a Friday night lonely and tired. |
luve
piphany |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
There are
a lot of us sitting at home alone on a Friday night but there is
hope for us above and beyond the addict's life of addiction.
I promise |
Cassandra |
Re: Does it mean he's not
ready to stop meth?
As a wife
of an addict, I think it is natural for us to wonder... to want
to experience this thing that they "love" more than us, that
they put before us, to see what is so great about it. Also,
there may be the thought that, if I did it with him would he
like me better? Or maybe it's self righteous justification...
like, its MY turn to escape this crap... Whatever it is, I know
you said you wouldn't do it... but just that the thought is in
the back of your mind, be careful. Do not dwell on those
thoughts or they might get the best of you... don't give
temptation a foothold in your life... And be careful not to
think you are above it... none of us are.
Just be careful... you don't want to go there. |
See also:
Can I stop meth on my own?
How do I cope with the meth addicts denial?
How do you know your ready to quit Meth?
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