| sal |
Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
If you use enough to show signs,
is this enough to know there is a problem?
Never used before, hubby does, I'm just wondering if I should be
watching him closer. His face has broke out some, and his legs
too.
any insight would be nice thanks |
| Replies... |
guest
who |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
if he is using, he has a
problem. Signs or no signs. That's my opinion. |
silly
veronica |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
I agree with Guestwho.
ANY amount of meth is too much and IS a problem. |
nine
years
clean |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
co-sign what GW said.
If there is ANY use, there is a problem. No ifs, ands, or buts. |
| sal |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
i figured as much. I wonder how
long it will take him to figure it out too. |
guest
who |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
Sal, could be a
loooooooooooooooooooooooong trip. Your best bet is educate
yourself, prepare yourself for this ride, decide your boundaries
etc. I think you lucked out by getting started on educating
yourself now. |
| sal |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
Yeah I have read about all there
is on the net about this stuff. That is how i found this place.
He uses about once a week, and is so much easier to be around
when he is. That is what scares me most. I like him better on it
than off it. hmm
thanks for your in puts |
sierra
Nights2 |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
Quote:
I like him better on it than off it.
Are you serious? |
silly
veronica |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
Quote:
Are you serious?
I actually completely understand what Sal
is saying. I have a close friend that i work with and her BF is
a user. She used to always say the same thing to me, and i never
understood how.
But then when I realized the patterns of meth - and how my
addict behaved while he was high - yeah, he was really nice,
funny and easy to be around when he was high. It was when he's
coming off of it that he's a monster - so yeah, it'd be easier
to have him always being high.
I don't think Sal is saying that it'd be better for him to be
high than to have NEVER used ... just now that he's used - it's
easier when he's actually high.
Sorry if I jumped in and misconstrued your thoughts, Sal. |
sierra
Nights2 |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
I don't know, maybe it's
different when it's your child.
It broke my heart in to to see my son high. Yea, he was all
funny and stuff. Absolutely tore me in to. |
| sal |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
you hit the nail on the head |
danimal
55 |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
BIG problem! bigger than
it may seem at this point.
It won't be long until you won't like him on...
or off of it. Guaranteed.
Talk is cheap and you're going to hear a lot it from your
addict, plug your ears and look for the truth...
what you see IS what you get.
There is a tsunami of insanity, grief and pain headed your way,
brace yourself with knowledge...and support...
and Sal...you can do that right here. 24/7
As you can see, the peeps who frequent this forum are nothing
short of amazing.
The *BEST* in my book |
| sal |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
I figure I do have a lot to look
forward too, I mean not look forward too. And NO I don't like
him using in fact i hate it. but when he is coming off it I wish
i could just crawl in a hole.
I don't understand this need of wanting, we have a great life
w/great kids and friends. I just don't get the reason why he has
decided he needed this.
When ever we argue he says its because of us he uses.
I just don't know how to bring it up to him, about a problem.. I
think he thinks I don't know when he uses.
I just don't know, I am an outsider to all this. I am thankful
my kids aren't involved w/it.
thanks again for all your in puts |
nine
years
clean |
Re: Is meth a problem when you show signs of using?
Quote:
I like him better on it than off it.
hmm
I completely understand this statement. I
liked my husband better on it than off it too. We were
co-addicts for many, many years.
But I will tell you that eventually that will change. Eventually
you will stop liking him altogether, but you will feel trapped
by the memories of who he was before meth.
Quote:
When ever we argue he says its
because of us he uses.
It's never their fault. It was never my
fault. Only when an addict can take responsibility for their own
lifestyle can they begin to get well.
He is in denial, which is perfectly normal. But I must warn you,
this is a progressive disease, which means it will ONLY GET
WORSE, and when I say worse I mean WAY WORSE.
Denial is a defense system which prohibits the addict from
realizing the reality of their own situation. They aren't simply
refusing to see what really is; they are actually unable to see
what really is.
This becomes most frustrating for the family members and loved
ones, as the addicts behavior becomes more and more bizarre and
self-centered and destructive and abusive and aggressive and on
and on I could go.
When you say you are glad your children aren't involved in it, I
presume you mean they aren't using it or their friends aren't
using it?
But if your children are still living in your home, they are
most certainly going to be affected by anyone else in the home
with a chemical dependency problem. When there is an addict or
alcoholic in the home, the entire family gets sick, not just the
person using.
Welcome to the forum. |
