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What is "normal behavior" the first month of recovery?


Juliett
55

What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?

Does anyone know if an addict in the first month of sobriety is acting normal, or are there things a person living with him needs to deal with. And what if that person doesn't know the addict is going through sobriety, just thinks he is depressed, what will happen?

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vctry7 Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
I was as nutty that first month as I was when I was using. My depression didn't set in until after the first month.
Cassandra Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
i would say that during the first month of sobriety, if you're talking about meth, the person is going to be very moody, extremely sensitive, lethargic... probably on edge because of cravings... having to deal with stress head on, sober for the first time in a while... and lacking the energy and motivation it takes to face a normal day... all these things and more are what my husband went through for a long time.
If I hadn't known he was facing sobriety, it probably would have been really bad... I wouldn't have known why he couldn't wake up and get up like a normal person... why he was so on edge and so sensitive... and I wouldn't have known how to be sensitive toward his needs or give the support he needed....
sickand
tired
77
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
That first month is kind of tricky...
I would say that the addict's chances of continued sobriety are greater if those living with him/her are aware of what's going on.

I'm glad I knew why my husband was so sluggish & moody when he stopped using- honestly, I don't know how I might have reacted to him if I had been in the dark.

How a person acts during early recovery can differ greatly... some will be more "normal" than others. But the person living with the recovering addict should definitely be in the know... either way.

JMO.
Juliett
55
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
what does it say about the relationship if the addict is afraid to say the truth to the person he lives with?
sickand
tired
77
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
My opinion? It doesn't necessarily imply anything negative about the relationship itself (other than the obvious: dealing with addiction)... just might mean that the addict isn't completely ready for surrender.

Admitting addiction is tough stuff... it takes LOTS of courage. Fear of telling loved ones might suggest that the addict is not quite ready for recovery... or it might just be that they feel so guilty that they don't know how.
le
grumps
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
Here is my take, I could be wrong but...
When I first got clean, I thought that I was finally flooding with honesty. After all, I was finally admitting that I had a problem and that I did have to make some changes.

But I still had problems being honest about everything. We are so accustomed to lying and hiding behind layer after layer of fronts that I would even say that it's virtually impossible for a newly-clean addict to be perfectly honest about everything right away.

It takes some clearing of the head to even have an idea what honesty really means.
Especially if you are referring to honesty about what "really" happened while he was using.
Things usually get worse before they get better, unfortunately. With meth, anyway. Just encourage the person that if they just survive this treacherous time right now, they will never have to suffer this kind of pain again.
Sfj Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
In my early months of recovery - the first year essentially - I did four things that took up almost all of my time.

1. I went to rehab at S.T.O.P. I highly recommend a good IOP program for most people who do not need residential housing assistance.

2. When I wasn't in treatment meetings or groups, I spent my time on the KCI message board and the KCI chat room.

3. I slept, and slept, and then I'd take a nap, until it was time for bed and a good night's rest. Then I'd sleep.

4. I ate healthier food than I did as a tweaker. No more Kit Kats, Reeses, Snickers and ice cream.

I have over five years clean and free from meth.
danimal
55
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
Uh huh  ...as sfj has effectively illustrated, there is a big/HUGE difference between early "recovery" and early abstinence.

Curious 55, is this mystery addict pursuing any form of tangible recovery?............. aside from lip service?
Juliett
55
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
early abstinence it is and trading recovery for the full time job and AA, which is not bad, but he knew he needed to take off work.
nine
years
clean
Re: What is normal behavior the first month of recovery?
Honestly, I was on pins and needles the first month I was clean. I didn't know from one minute to the next if being clean was what I really wanted to do. I knew I needed to do it, but I wasn't liking it at all, and I kept making deals with myself, like, okay, make it through today and you can use tomorrow if you really want to.

Like I said, it was minute by minute most of the time. I was weary; I was physically exhausted; I was extremely shocked as I began to realize the damage and destruction my addiction caused; I wasn't sure I could stay clean.

I was a wreck, and it took a long, long time for me, working the steps of NA, before I felt like I might be okay.

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