naughty
kids |
Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Hello. This is my first
time on this message board. I am 38 years old. My ex-husband
recently died from meth. My oldest son is an addict. His
girlfriend is an addict. Her parent's are addicts of meth and
heroin. My sons girlfriend had a baby 5 1/2 months ago.. she
(baby) test positive for meth.. the mother also drank until she
was 7 months pregnant. The baby has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and
the baby lives in a foster home. I work for the state of Oregon
as a caseworker for elderly abuse. I will be getting my
grand-baby soon. I will be adopting her soon. I do not know what
is in store for me. I guess at this point nothing will surprise
me. My ex-husband did a great job in raising our son, teaching
him a trick of his trade.. . I feel so sad, utterly alone,
when it come to what the baby has in store for a later life. I
will do all what I can for her.. She is grandma's lil
strawberry. I love her with all my heart. |
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jacks
mom |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Hooray for you!!! It's so
nice that this little baby has a grandma to take care of her!
I'm sure with educating yourself of meth addicted/fetal alcohol
syndrome babies, you'll be able to handle whatever IS in store
for you and it sounds like you have that type of job that can
provide the knowledge.
My friend, last year, took in a meth addicted baby girl the day
after she was born. She had about 5 days of detox to go through.
The mother has had three or four others taken away but keep
getting knocked up......I won't EVEN go there.
This year the adoption went through and we got to be at the
little girl's first birthday!
I'm sure you'll do well and happy grandPARENTing! |
naughty
kids |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Thank you. You sure get
support from this little chat. When I try to talk to my
relatives about this or even try to share a feeling they roll
there eyes at me. Like there so much better then other, or they
just don't want to get involved. Sometimes I just feel so much
sadness for my little granddaughter. She has been in foster care
right after she was born. She has no one to call her own. she
has had 3 foster care parents. her mom and dad do visit, but
visiting is very limited. it make me just want to cry.. They too
just think oh well, If we lose this one, well just replace it by
having another one.. My god! What are they thinking? |
jacks
mom |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
You can't worry about the
others. Some folks will never get over the fact that even good
people end up messed up in drugs.
My daughter, who is the addict in my life, clean 1+ year and
doing GREAT, had spent most of her time in the town I grew up in
which is fairly affluent. The drug treatment program that my
daughter went to is in the town we live in now, (not affluent AT
ALL but affordable), and is the place a lot of her friends were
sent when their meth use got bad. There were a couple of the
parents that really didn't want their 'precious child'
intermingling with a bunch of drug addicts in treatment classes!
One even referred to them as 'low life drug addicts'...like
being a rich addict puts you in a much higher level. PFFFT!!!
Funny when there are folks that believe THEIR kid being addicted
isn't the same as a low/middle income kid being addicted! Meth
addiction is meth addiction.
You're doing a good, (though scary), thing. I couldn't imagine
starting at my age of 44 raising another baby YIKES!!! But, yea,
the people who think their better or wonder why you are doing
this...WHATEVER. I don't know why people get so uppity about
crap that has NOTHING to do with them.
You'll do with what you have and what you know.
And as far as the mom and dad...have they heard of birth
control? Aye yi yi! |
| micole |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
God Bless you and all the
other Grandma's! |
| Penel0pe |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
You are in good company
here - lots of grandma's here who will offer you lots of
support.
Your granddaughter is lucky to have you.
I would ask social services (Or whatever agency placed her in
foster care) to give you all the information they can about
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I'm sure they will be more than happy to
provide you with some education, and we are here to provide you
with LOTS of support.
Welcome to KCI. |
up
against
thewall |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Welcome.
I am one of those G-moms. I have 2 grandsons I'm raising. A 2
and a 4 year old. There are days I won't lie that you will feel
totally overwhelmed. But the rewards far outweigh those tiring
days. My little guy just turned 2 Wednesday and he is full of
energy from morning to bedtime, so this grandma runs full steam
ahead. Please do not let family and/or friends who have no
understanding of what you are going through influence your love
for this granddaughter. Sending blessings your way that this
innocent little victim will find her permanent home with you
soon.
You have disabled your PM or I would send you some other helpful
websites. Take care and hang in there. |
corty
shell |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Wow, that's amazing of
you to do this.
Good luck! |
| dells |
Re: Adopting granddaughter from family of meth users
Congratulations, you have
a lot of blessings coming your way!!
For almost 4 years I raised my precious granddaughter, my
daughter is now 15 months in recovery & both she & granddaughter
are with me.
Many times other family members injected their negative
thoughts, I like to think they were only concerned for me.
You may be in for a lot of work, but all her hugs & kisses will
be worth it!! |
