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Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery?


Juliett
55
Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery

I wanted to ask my friends addicts about the reasons they would shut off, or not respond during early recovery.

My addict and I have very supportive and loving (not sexual right now) relationship, but he tends to shut off for weeks at a time quite often. Even if I tell him supportive things and sweetly ask to call when he can.
He is on antidepressants, but still....

I don't want to be depressed about it or beat myself up for no reason, that would not be good for ether one of us. Just want to understand, so I can be a better support when the need comes.

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Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
One reason is, your moods suck. You have all these feelings but want to ignore them all. You don't want to think about Meth because then you get urges to use. I think you are just overwhelmed and want to deal with it yourself, to do whatever you can to get by. I guess it is a case by case situation. For the most part, you just want to curl up in a ball for a while.
2fast
2late
Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
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I guess it is a case by case situation. For the most part, you just want to curl up in a ball for a while.

I totally agree on this statement. Each deals with their own recovery in their own way. My other 1/2 deals with his in this way. He shuts down, or retracts into his own world. I think its part guilt, mixed feelings, and just plain feeling. Which is most of the reasons why we end up using anyway.. Right? I find men mostly find it easier to just shut down and withdraw. Not to mention everything else that goes along with quitting. body aches, nerves on major FRAZZLE mode. Mind going crazy and just who and what do you trust anymore.

Have patience, understanding and as hard as it may be at times don't take it too personal. That's always been my mistake. Have a good day. 

nine
years
clean
Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
You know, for me at least, I did this because I was horrified by the damage and destruction my addiction caused, and I was having to face it head on.

There was no way around it. I was in the process of learning how to own that I was the cause of the damage and destruction my addiction did to my life.

I was having a hard enough time facing myself honestly....doing so with the rest of the world was unthinkable at that time.
danimal
55
Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
We are BAKED... and we stay baked for a long time. Dopamine is at an all time low along with our esteem and sense of self worth.
The guilt, shame and remorse are nothing short of overwhelming....as are the cravings and obsession to use.
It's common to simply go mute [and impotent] knowing that we have little or nothing positive to contribute, and without a tenacious approach to recovery we can remain stuck in anaerobic mode indefinitely.

Just never forget 55...it's NOT your fault. Not even!
Juliett
55
Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
Thanks 55

What finally helps you to come out of that?
danimal
55
Re: Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery
Time....AND a daily devotion to recovery and self discovery.

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