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Will addicts support someone to have a using buddy?
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soso
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These are kind of strange questions, but I am curious.
My husband, who is out on a run, doesn't have money to buy meth. At least not money from a real job. I wouldn't put anything past him but I don't think he is thieving in order to get money. He has always been very careful in his illegal life in order not to have to go to jail. Being a thief to him is too risky. I am fairly sure of this.
My questions. Will other users support someone just to have a using buddy? I know the amount one uses is different for everyone, but how much money would you say it costs on a daily basis for a veteran user? Again I know everyone is different but does anyone have an idea how much a veteran, heavy-duty user might consume?
I think he is staying with someone who housesits or staying with a female who uses and either one of those people is supporting his habit.
Any input is appreciated.
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forget
suzette |
YES!
...what goes around comes around we always said.
if you take care of me today, I'll take care of you tommorow.
definately.
....lots of that,in my experiance.
anywhere from 25 to 100...daily
.....you can slide with 25.00, (a quarter gram) to not be dope sick....and feel better....
...but for 100.00 (a gram) that was much better..
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BentBut
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soso-
Stealing can range from taking meth from an addict/seller as I used to do--wait til the addict/seller isn't "aware" or "watching" or "awake" or has gone out of the room and then I'd steal my meth. I have seen baggies "stolen" from other addicts as well. Stealing escalates to varying degrees from there if one doesn't have the money or:
An addict can barter goods(things they own but will trade for meth), they can run errands for a seller or a cook including going to get ingredients/supplies for the cook & dropping off meth and getting the money owned the seller. I've seen cars, boats, stereos, computers,...etc. "traded" or "bartered", in some cases "sold" for meth.
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Will other users support someone just to have a using buddy?
Many addicts that live alone get to the point of liking a user or they will feed a user. Addicts form "fiend"-ships & yes, do support one another. Sometimes one will spot the other...Suz said it best though.
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I know the amount one uses is different for everyone, but how much money would you say it costs on a daily basis for a veteran user?
$40 to $150(depending on part of the country for cost also). Not every addict uses daily...at least not and live long using daily--as in a "veteran user."
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Again, I know everyone is different but does anyone have an idea how much a veteran, heavy-duty user might consume?
I've seen usage as low as 1/8th of a gram and as high as 1 ram...maybe a wee-tad over that 1 gram.
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I think he is staying with someone who housesits or staying with a female who uses and either one of those people is supporting his habit.
Sometimes it's just one female, sometimes it's a dating or married couple, sometimes it's a male, sometimes it's a whole mixed group....just wherever the addict can stay at that time.
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NoMore
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where there's a will, there's a way.
Morals.. I put those on hold when using, certain things I wouldn't do, but there's a lot of ways to make $$ out there.
Will he go to treatment??
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Tender
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My question to you is what are you doing for you and your recovery? I realize you want some kind of understanding in regards to your addict, but that isn't going to change what is happening with him.
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quietlonely
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You asked the question I was wondering about. My guy has a job but I pick up the check, cash it, go with him when he has to have gas, he takes no money at all with him. But I THINK he is using again. People tell me there's no way if he doesn't carry money with him. So I was wondering, COULD his friends give him the meth? Thank you for asking the question.
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missy
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Yes. But why do you ask? That's what an addict does for a living....find ways and means to get more. Taking care of your own well being is going to give you more relief than explaining away anyone elses active addiction. Acceptance will help you in your own recovery.
Peace,
Missybuns
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Unfortunately, the old adage "Misery loves company" also rings true within the drug culture.
When I was using, I was a very generous addict. Meth was cheap and I made a good living as a legal paraprofessional, and my husband/co addict had been at his job 20 years. So money, the first 10 years of my addiction, was not an issue.
I could fly in ten different directions and get whatever I wanted fronted to me, with the agreement to pay later.
I think hanging out with and/or helping other users stay in the lifestyle served to further the lie we told ourselves that what we were doing wasn't all that bad or out of the norm; it helped us justify our bad behavior.
When I left town to get clean, and came back 3 months later to face the music, so many of my tweaker "friends" offered me whatever amount I wanted, free, as welcome home gifts.
I refused, but anyway, you get my drift.
I also agree that you should focus on getting YOU out of that lifestyle, because even family members and loved ones, by no fault of their own, are sucked into it when there is an addict present in their lives.
You can't do much for the addict until he wants help, but there is alot you can do to protect yourself, and believe me, if there is an addict in your life, you need protection.
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| writerjp |
I used to always give some to my "friend" so he would just hangout with me. I never liked using alone so I would always promise it to him if he would go hangout with me. It went the other way around too.
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| lynne |
soso: i just noticed you said your husband was out on another run.
and recently you posted that he was home and wanting to fix things between you.
you weren't sure what to believe.
i guess now you know what to think and i am sorry he doesn't seem to be trustworthy.
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| imlostinky |
Quietlylonelyalone,
You asked :
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So I was wondering, COULD his friends give him the meth?
According to my husband, yeah. He said his meth was free.
His paycheck would make it home- so therefore there wasn't a meth problem.
Right?
wrong.
Hubby scrapped- took in copper and aluminum- money I did not know about.
He fixed people's cars, wired their boats, odd and end stuff- money I did not know about.
He had his boss hold onto his overtime and just pay him in a separate check- so I didn't know about that one.
He told me he just wasn't getting paid for his overtime because it was being help for our kitchen remodel that was to be done.
My kitchen still isn't remodeled- it's been 2 years since he quit. 3 years worth of overtime and I didn't even rate a new sink.
A lot of the spotting that Suz wrote about- fronting this one that, and of course , his explanation to me was he owed them the money because he borrowed it for gas or lunch.
Buying stuff on payments- riding mowers, tools, etc- that never materialized.
His free stuff costs a whole lot. It wasn't free- he just wasn't directly taking cash from his hand and putting it into another therefore it wasn't costing him much.
Don't think just because you have the illusion of being the one in control of the pocketbook, the addict is clean.
You can't control, cure , his addiction.
Where there is a will- you can bet he will find the way.
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