| pleasehelp |
How do you let go of your guilt
because of Meth?
how do you
let go of your guilt? mom has alot....and i feel that her guilt
caused her to go back to using. any helpful hints? |
| Replies... |
| robinrue |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
Hi, i
think she went back to using because she is still an addict-not
because of guilt, sorry to be so honest with my opinion. |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
Sometimes we like to hang onto our guilt ... it becomes a
pattern and an excuse for us to do the things we do and have a
reason for it.
She has to want to let go of it. |
| pleasehelp |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
i just
hate this drug! it has screwed my whole family up...my brothers
are having such a hard time! My older bro is with a girl that
uses meth and my little bro(17) has moved out with some people
that, i dont think, are looking out for what is best. i want to
help them and change everything but it is the way things are and
it is just not fair! i know i sound like a little kid but that
is how i feel. i hate what meth has done to my family and all
the other families it has messed up! i pray everyday that it
would just go away and it would be a bad dream but it isnt is
it. i wish i could stop dwelling on this crap.... |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
Trust
me when I say - I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I wish my mom wouldnt use
either- it worrys me, makes me sick inside, i have spent nights
crying myself to sleep, i have voiced my opinion - fought about
it, shouted about and had my heart broken over it ..... Until I
realized I had Done everything i could .... and Now I had to do
what was best for me and my own peace of mind .... and just have
faith that this is her life and her journey and accept I HAVE NO
CONTROL over it ... NONE.
So I have distanced myself ... and had to stop carring around
her problems and my brothers problems like they were my own
..... I was letting it all bother me WAY more then it was them
.... So I stopped and started taking care of me ..... that
really is ALL I can do. |
| pleasehelp |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
so your
mom is an addict too? how did you do it....get on with your
life? she makes me feel like if i dont see her she thinks i hate
her or something. she says she wants to kill herself and i just
could not loose her. do you think she is just "playing" me
because she knows how much i care? should i call her bluff? what
do you think? |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
I was
the addict first- Then my mom started using my last year in my
addiction and then she got clean after using for about 6 to 9
months and then I went into rehab shortly after and at about my
2 year sobriety Mark she went back to using.
I am now almost 3 1/2 years clean. We Dont talk.
I think you may need to go to some alanon or some type of
counceling.
What she is doing isnt right. Controlling you and mentally
verbally abusing you by threatening to kill herself.
Why not try some type of intervention.
In her being sick and you allowing her to have so much control
over you .... you are getting sick right along with her.
Take care of you. And in doing so maybe you discover the best
way to help her.
|
| pleasehelp |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
some
alanon or some type of counceling sounds great i know i need it.
i have thought of doing an intervention but i have been in fear
that what we have to say will push her over the edge you know.
now that she is in a controlled environment (rehab) i feel like
we could with out the fear of what she might do. so that is an
option i would like to test. wish me luck! |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
Oh Okay
I wasn't aware she was in a rehab ...
is it court ordered ?
How long has she been there ? How long will she be there ?
Has she gotten a sponsor ?
How old are you if you dont mind me asking ? |
| pleasehelp |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
is it
court ordered ? YES for the second time
How long has she been there? almost 2 weeks
How long will she be there ? 3 months i think all in hopes that
she wont go to jail.
Has she gotten a sponsor ? i bet not
How old are you if you dont mind me asking ? i am 20 |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
OH I
feel for ya- this must be so hard on you.
Your so young - how long have you been dealing with this?
You need to stop playing her games. If she is threatening to
kill herself I would tell the rehab she is at. Dont make things
easy on her ... dont let her have the power to continue to pull
her into her crap over and over again.
You owe to you and her to take BACK the control. |
| pleasehelp |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
BIG
HUGG back to ya! i have been "mom" for about 7 or 8 years now.
well i guess that i should not feel bad when i end up talking to
her like she is the kid huh! i will let the rehab know! for
sure! and you know what else is funny.... i have a wedding to
plan! all on my own and pay for all on my own. i just am so mad
that she picked meth over me and the wedding.... it is in june
and she will not be able to make it now because of her selfish
actions. but i will get back in control thats part of why im
here... |
| angieNcali |
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
That is
funny . . . not really funny. But I also had a wedding to plan
all on my own. My mom wasnt locked up in a rehab or jail or
anything like that she was busy using and never once called me
or checked to see how it was going & I planned for over a year.
She didnt participate any of the projects, she never said
cognrats, or NOTHING. So I know how it feels. it Sucks and it is
unfair. But for us it is a fact of life ... and something we
have to deal with do ....
CONGRATULATIONS ! |
chrisgonz
|
Re: How do you let go of your guilt because of meth?
Pleasehelp,
I've done just about everything on my own too. We don't even get
cards or nothing from my mother. Never have, never will.
I'm 44, and just quit giving a @#%$ about 6 years ago.
My mother never used drugs, she's just a really mean and ugly
person, very bitter, about what.. I have no clue. She's got
money to burn.. she got it dirty though and I think she just
hates herself and everyone near her.
Get on with your wedding plans, make it great.
Love and Live lady!!!
Love yourself most, you're soul is all you can take with you
when all is said and done. Have inner peace, down to your soul.
changed everything to just about everything... I've had help
from other family members. |
