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Addicted to Recovery?
What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
How does one ever get anything done when one gets
addicted to recovery? I am telling myself that I am on
sabbatical
from everyday life and that recovery from loving an
addict-codependency etc.. is the most important thing for me
right now..... but with lots of prayer time, kid time, meetings,
reading,
writing, thinking, meetings, reading, writing, resting, crying,
talking, plus all of the leftover b.s. from my addict's madness,
I am not getting anything done! Literally, I am close to a
failure at doing most of the everyday things-I am keeping up
with paying bills for the most part, cooking fairly adequately
but cleaning, fixing, pta, soccer, football, calling my mom-relatives, getting
my hair cut and everything else...FAILURE-don't feel like it
much-no time for it.
I say addicted to recovery lightly, but with the addictive
personality that I obviously have, it can be a serious issue
when the necessaries don't seem to get done and there isn't
anyone else to do them but me.
I am thinking that the best thing to do is truly think of it as
a sabbatical or a rehab, I just wish it were easier to explain
to family, friends, kids....
--paceset |
| Replies... |
| Sfj |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
I'm about as addicted as anyone can get.
That is my basic nature, just like addiction, I have a HUGE
tendency to overdo EVERYTHING. Many addicts are the same way.
But given a choice between addiction to meth, or addiction to
recovery - I'll choose recovery.
Am I balanced nicely? Probably not. I spend way too much time on
this website. But again, this website is a better place than
where I used to spend my time.
And it is getting better. Five years in recovery is just the
beginning of a lifetime of moving in a better direction.
The journey is the reward. |
| donnaeve |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
not sure if this is totally in topic . . . but this
is my take on it. by the way im now a month clean of that shyte.
anyway part of getting high to me was the inevitable climb back
up to sanity. has anyone else felt like this? iv never been an
everyday user. intermittent use that varies with availability
and levels of 'no'strength.is this addiction to recovery?[in a
sense?]:rolleyes |
| starryeyed |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
So you don't have time to do all these things you
need to do, but you do have time to throw in a snotty reply to
someone who is bummed out about their sister's drug addiction?
Interesting priorities. |
| paceset |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
Wow starryeyed, you were having a shitty day! I'm
sorry I fell asleep after I posted because I had no thought at
all about my post being a snotty reply-HELLO!!!! I totally
wanted to know what others more experienced and HEALTHY than me
had to tell you(and me) because I am on YOUR SIDE!! I am here to
help myself and others by the grace of GOD and thank God there
are others(like you) who are thinking and experiencing the same
things as I am .
Gosh, I guess once again, my words didn't come across clearly.
I'm sorry I fell asleep. Starry, I am one hurting soul and I got
here partly because I NEVER make snotty comments to hurt anyone
and I try wayyy too hard to please and be honest and innocently
helpful. I imagine that I am just as ready to be offended as you
were-see, I am offended and hurt that you took my care as
"snotty" Now, I'm in a shitty place because I live in a world
where an addict often knocks me down emotionally for caring and
unintentionally rips my heart to shreds because he can't
understand anyone honestly caring for him cause he doesn't.
I really did want to know if you could drop her off. I wish I my
addict pal would let me drop him off-I ask him everytime I get
him in the passenger seat. I love driving by places where I have
gone to meetings and just mentioning that we could stop...I know
now that I have to give that disappointment to God, but I
haven't been able to stop caring yet. |
Tender
heartsKS |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
Balance takes time. It did for me. Years, as a
matter of fact |
| DSS |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
This is something that I am going throu with my
recovering meth addict, clean for 5 mon. YEA! I am so proud of
him, he was also a cook. We've been married for 24 years and I
was all but left out of his life for approx. 5 years while he
was gone for days at a time. Now clean since April, I thought I
would have companionship back with my husband. Maybe for a short
period of time, but then it seems he is a recovery addict. He
spends about 5 nights a week and sometimes 2 a day at NA
meetings. They also have other outings like bowling ect... I am
never invited due to it being anonymous. I feel so left out of
his life again. All I want is some companionship and time with
my husband. This is so hard. I'm not a selfish person, you know
a selfish does not stay with a meth addict. I just pray and
trust God for a better future. sfj, please respond, did you and
your wife go throu this? I always respect your opinion. |
| Penel0pe |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
DSS - NA literature actually addresses the issue of
BALANCE in recovery - that we CAN and do often get so involved
in recovery that we fail to achieve the goal - BALANCE - to live
life on life's terms, to have a good, balanced life that is
based on the principles of recovery...
Our literature does address this - too much service, too much
time spent involved with recovery can be a bad thing when it
interferes with our families, our jobs, and the other areas of
life that we should be living.
As far as you not being invited because it's "Anonymous?"
I never heard of such a thing. There are open meetings where non
addicts, families, and interested memebers of the community are
welcomed to attend. Campouts, dances, unity days - we all bring
our children, our families - my parents have even attended a
meeting just to see what NA is about!
You need to say something. If it is having a negative effect on
the rest of your life, it isn't "Recovery" in the truest sense
of the word!!
I personally am in service (Web servant for our area, on the
Public Relations Comittee, campout committee, secretary for a
meeting for a year, coming to this and other websites for an
hour or two a day, etc) and I go to 1 to 5 meetings a week -
depending on the week!
But, I have to work, I have to take care of my family, pay the
bills, and do the real life stuff too.
BALANCE in recovery means we live life to the fullest -
INCLUDING recovery. Recovery comes first so we can maintain the
rest of our lives... but that doesn't mean recovery is the ONLY
thing in our lives if we're doing it right! |
| paceset |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
I was just reading the lovely word BALANCE and
trying to stop my heart from pounding when I read YEARS and then
I read your post DSS. No, of course selfish's don't stay with
meth addicts but one must become a bit of a selfish to survive a
meth addict through recovery -my gosh, I don't think you have
given yourself enough awards! Wow! You made it this far...wow! I
hope Sfj responds regarding he and wife's own ways of dealing
with recovery and loneliness in a marriage and all that can
come. I'm not married to my addict and am practicing detachment
and letting go at this time. Now, I, myself, was talking about
recovering from the disease that loving a meth addict
left me with when I was
talking of being addicted to recovery but your dilemna is very
important to so many. Do you have Al-Anon or Nar-Anon in your
life for you? I imagine that just when you are ready to love
your husband with all your heart and he has to work his program
just to survive, you feel very lonely and left out. I pray for
my addict to choose recovery quickly but while that's not
happening, I go to my own
meetings with my own
loving supportive people that are part of my own
club (gosh I feel like a 12 year old) and it keeps me busy working
on me. I haveto
be selfish or I may lose what little is left of me. There isn't
much more you can possibly do than to love your man and
yourself (you have been through a great battle) and keep on
going-and by gosh, get your own club! Seriously though, I go to
some NA meetings even though I'm not addicted to drugs (well,
nicotine) in the same way most of the members are-instead, I'm
affected by drug addiction heavily, but many meetings are open
and you & I are perfectly welcome there. Also, Nar-Anon meetings
do invite addicts in recovery periodically. Perhaps you and your
husband could share a little in the "meetings" part of this
wonderful miracle called recovery.
Now, please tell me, how do you get anything done around the
house with all of the work that has to be done just recovering??
That's my big question. |
Indiana
shedevil |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
Quote:
There are open meetings where non addicts, families, and
interested memebers of the community are welcomed to attend.
Thanks for the info Pen. I was made to feel like an outcast and
asked by a few people not to come to the NA meetings anymore.
They said that "it isn't good for Tommy." I was just trying to
be supportive... That's all...
I guess that just because one group of people is like that, not
every group is like that. I felt like such an outcast. All these
women giving me dirty looks because I am normal. Does this sort
of thing usually happen?
I get a few warm welcomes, but mostly cold fake ones. They had
this attitude that they were so much better than I. Whatever
happened to principles before personalities? |
| Sfj |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
That is somewhat common, even though in a perfect
world, everyone in the rooms would be Angels and Saints.
The fact is, many are seriously ill people, mentally ill.
There are newcomers who are not very far along in the process of
recovery. There are relapsers. There are some normal people, but
also hookers, thugs, strippers, criminals, creeps, cops,
perverts, murderers, phonies, junkies, PhD's, bikers, lawyers,
nurses, rednecks, teachers, accountants, breeders, gays,
fathers, felons, parolees, jerks, and other folks, just like you
and me |
| paceset |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
SFj, are you grumpy today because the SEAHAWKS are
so awesome? I can't help but always think of you and the 49'ers
and my love, Joe Montana.....and how they always beat the
seahawks...now the Seahawks are beating the Giants 28-0. Wow,
sometimes we are stars and sometimes we are total losers-just
like people in general.
Now, I'm still hopin that God and your wife will give you some
good meaty wisdom words for DSS and me too. I know that with the
years of meth madness that DSS has gone through, she could stand
up to any meany or ghoul at an NA meeting. I haven't met any
yet, but now, if and when I do, I am tougher and like when the
nice ole guy at the Al-Anon meeting asked what he should do with
the people who came to meetings who didn't exactly fit into the
Al-Anon mold and perhaps had an addict they were dealing with
instead of an alcoholic, I piped up and clarified that more
than likely, if a person loved an addict, that person probably
also loved an alcoholic or many alcoholics more likely!
Indian, dont' you ever let them bring you down and make you feel
unworthy of bein part of their sickee club-you just stand up and
give-em a piece of your mind!!they need it |
Indiana
shedevil |
Re: What to do about getting addicted to
recovery?
Paceset...
You are so funny! I love it!
Nah... It would be a waste of breath to stand up and tell them a
thing or two. Again, my choice was to not go anymore. I realize
that I like my Al Anon meetings better. I like being here
better.
I realize that I don't have to feel guilty because I am
"normal". I also now realize that this is probably the closest
thing that those people (in that certain area) have to being
"normal".
A chicken in a group of ducks is not normal. A duck in a group
of chickens is not normal. |
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