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Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Apassion
2help |
Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Hey
everyone- just a quick question.
My friend, the addict, lives very far from me (Vegas) and as his
family knew he had a problem 2 years ago, I just spoke with his
mom last week, he lives with her.
She seems to think he has been clean for almost a year now. He
told me in July he was still abusing meth, its been 2 years or
more.
Is she ever going to figure this out? With her unaware, is she
enabling him to abuse just by him living there and all the
things that comes with it?
Why would he ever get clean if he has somewhere to go and had
the ability to fool his mom and most likely getting $$$ off her?
Ok, so its more than a quick question, sorry. I just cant help
but wonder, by her not knowing, will it get the best of him
before he hits rock bottom?
Does she really know but not accepting it, ignoring it?
Thanks in advance |
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| JUSTCATS |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Sometimes it is hard to tell when someone is tweekin'. I for
one, had no idea that my ex fiancé was hooked on meth. I thought
he was just being his feisty self.
I look back now, after he has been arrested, and see that there
are a lot of things, that didn't add up. For one, he was losing
weight like crazy, but I chalked it up to him welding at his job
for 12 hours in 100 degree weather... Him needing a lot of
money...
If she were, to take the blinders off and really look at certain
things, she would probably realize it. In my opinion, she
doesn't want to realize it. "Pretend that there is no problem
and it will go away." |
Indiana
shedevil |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Justcats...
My ex is a welder also, and I thought a lot of it had to do with
his job also. I had NO clue either...
His mother was in some serious denial. She still is. She can
easily blame me for his addiction, but that's alright... I know
the truth. I am not to blame. He had the monkey on his back way
before I can into the picture.
Sometimes you just have to walk away from the situation
especially if someone is looking at the world with blinders on.
I found that some people may resent you for telling them the
truth. They view it at causing trouble or "stirring the pot".
Its like trying to deny being pregnant... Sooner or later it
just gets bigger and bigger and bigger... |
Lives
With
Wolves |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Off
topic - but is Meth prevalent in the welding industry? My son is
thinking of attending a trade school and that is the only one
offered in my area that I can find. |
| JUSTCATS |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Quote:
Off topic - but is Meth prevalent in
the welding industry?
I can't remember where I read it or if it was
even true, but I have heard a lot of welders are into meth. In
fact, I think that is where, my ex, got back into it. |
Indiana
shedevil |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
I've
heard the same thing. My ex used to work nights in a foundry and
they ALL used the sh*t (from what I heard).
But NOT al welders do meth. There's a couple of major industrial
factories around here that will do random drug testing so no one
dares to use any kind of drugs.
Its places like those companies that the welders make KILLER
money instead of barely above minimum wage... |
| GaFlake |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Well, my
husband hid his 11 year addiction very well. He is not a welder.
HE SELLS SUPPLIES TO THE WELDERS! Is that not weird. His dealer
was a customer (welder) of his. I think you girls are on to
something. |
Indiana
shedevil |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Maybe
they aren't happy people... Who knows...
Until I get some financial compensation for doing the research
on that, then I'll just accept the way things are. I refuse to
let it occupy another moment of my "my time", the time that I
need to use to focus on "me me me" instead of "wtf".
I've wasted too much time and energy beating a dead horse...
But, it is interesting to note the similarities though... |
| smbch06 |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Mine,
too (ex-bf) was a welder! And I, too, had no idea he was using.
Same story, he got thinner and thinner, working 12 and 14 hour
shifts, making himself scarce during his off-hours because he
didn't want his tweaking to show.. The more scarce he became,
the more I complained about it, then I found myself ragging on
him for leaving piles of incomplete projects everywhere.... and
I thought it was ME! It took me a long time to figure it out. I
hate to generalize, but it seems they are really, really good
liars (guess they have to be).
As for a mother's denial - I watched my own mother deny that my
brother was an addict all the while he was taking her money to
buy it with and slamming it up his arm. I tried to listen as my
ex-husbands mother, after my ex's 3RD DUI, insisted that it was
the other car who pulled out in front of him and that the police
tampered with his urine specimen, but I just had to tell her
that that was the biggest crock of sh!t I've ever heard.
Mercifully, she wouldn't talk to me 2 years after that. He and I
are divorced now. The ex-bf meth addict is living in his car and
says he's doing' just fine! |
jacks
mom |
Re: Hiding his meth addiction from mom, should I tell her?
Okay I
could be wrong about this, but...
I think it could be possible she has NO CLUE!!! If she has not
encountered the 'party scene' ever, (and I know some folks who
have been straight ALL their lives), she could be totally naive
about signs of drug use.
When my daughter was using, there were a couple of parents that
FLAT OUT KNEW that their kids would NEVER do meth...and even
after Jacklyn's O.D. there was one that would let their son have
'parties' at their home. This kid was a pretty clean cut,
straight 'A' student. I don't think in their case it was denial.
He was a great manipulator!
Until he got arrested along with a couple of others.
At least I suspected. AND tested. I seemed to test when she was
crashing and a complete a$$ho7e...so no proof. Other than that,
I couldn't tell you any signs I saw in my daughter except that
she was a defiant teen...and that's a common thing for some
teens anyway. BUT the defiance was magnified a gazillion times!
I ALWAYS thought I'd know. I was a stoner and 'partied' with the
best of them. I saw people high all the time. But we did not
have meth around back in the day. Now I can spot a tweaker, but
this is only because of my obsession with internet research and
paying attention.
This one can sneak up on you! |
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Should I
be looking for Meth abuse?
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