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Son getting out of rehab and I
feel helpless
Kathy |
Son getting out of rehab
and I feel helpless
My son is soon too be
getting out of Rehab. He has been there for 6 months. It has
been a long journey for him and us (his family). I am feeling
very scared because so much has happened. Can anyone help me?
Why am I feeling so helpless and scared toward him. He really
has come along way. I guess part of it is the trust. I am so
mixed up. |
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RIP |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
Hello,
I don't know much about your story to offer any suggestions.
What did you do for yourself while your son was recovering?
Possibly you could look into some support for yourself.
Trust is like love, its a gift other people give to you.
Give him some time to show you through his actions that he has
changed and is willing to try to live a clean and sober life.
I wish you well. |
Guene |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
Hi Kathy, I
know that feeling so much, and it is scary to have to wonder if
things will go back to the way they were or will he do what
needs to be done. Just take it one day at a time and watch for
signs. Try to be supported without be accusing at the same time.
Just be yourself, and keep your guard up without letting him
know or feel it. Hugs |
kathy |
Son getting out of rehab
and I feel helpless
Hey thanks for the reply.
Rip my son is 24 years old was into meth since he was 18. In and
out of jail, this last round he was picked up for having pot in
his car, he was clean but it was a probation violation. He asked
his PO if he could go to rehab and she let him. Part of it is he
had no choice because he was looking at jail.
I just have to learn to keep my mouth zipped. We want
them to make changes but we also have to. I will take your
advice. Enjoy! I have been coming here
for four years. The past year just lurking. My advice doesn't
help me so I usually don't like to give it to other's. I will
say you all have helped me a great deal through out the years.
Thanks for the hug. |
michelle
inwa |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
Hi Kathy,
Congratulations on your son completing rehab!
My son, Michael (25) is in jail waiting to go into rehab. (He's
also used drugs about the same amount of time as your son.) =(
I can understand completely your nervousness and being scared
(and hopeful) all at the same time!
Please continue to post, would love to hear how things are
going.
Take good care of yourself! |
Kathy
as
cmom |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
Kathy my
friend,
I know your fears. I know your hopes for your son. I really miss
talking to you. All you can do is take it one day at a time, ya
know? You know what to look for. Neither of us have just begun
this journey. We've been down this road so many times before.
I'm HERE for YOU if you need me. All you have to do is call.
Your friend |
dells |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
My daughter
went into a clean & sober living facility for her recovery, she
was there for eight months. After her first month her child & I
visited once a week. During those visits I remained on guard,
was somewhat "cold" to her, did not let little one get too
attached.
Her last month at the facility I finally let her have my
address, and then let her come to my home, I didn't even go get
her, made her travel almost 2 hrs on the bus (let's see how
badly she wants this).
Finally in April I invited her to come live with me & little
one, drawing up a contract for her to sign. So far she has kept
to the agreement, she goes to meetings twice weekly & church
regularly. Her support group in NA is not only for her but me as
well.
This last week I let her borrow my car, a big step for me in
trusting her! The possibility of relapse is always in my mind,
but if she's going to, it is out of my hands. Just as I hear the
addicts say "one day at a time" that is what I tell myself, and
days grow into years, and that's what I am praying
for.........every single day!
I can't say how long until I feel a complete trust of my
daughter, but just for today I am confident that it will happen.
Congrats to you & your son! |
nine
years
clean |
Re: Son getting out of
rehab and I feel helpless
Hi Kathy. I
can only imagine how scary this must be for you. And yes, I
think trust is a huge issue for you at this point in time.
Thankfully, we have other moms here to give you sound advice.
I can only say as a recovering addict that some of us do
recover, and if you've been lurking then you know that.
It's really all up to him. If recovery is what he wants, then he
shall have it.
I guess ACTIONS will be the key. What he does when he gets out
will tell you all you need to know.
My prayers are with you, and him, and your family. |
kathy |
Re: Son getting out of rehab
and I feel helpless
Thanks everyone for your in-put! What it all
comes down to is the Trust. When they have screwed us time after
time it is hard. I will take one step at a time and make rules.
It is my home he is coming too, my castle). I really appreciate
all, your time to answer. C-mom I will call you. I have had to
work all week filling in for a girl on vacation. I have been
gone at night until 10:30p.m. I hope your feeling better and not
so overwhelmed. |
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