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When is the best time to leave a meth addict?
blue
rain141 |
When is the best time to leave a meth
addict?
My addict used on Tuesday
(he denies it) and was high as a kite until Wednesday evening.
The come down started that night as he got more and more
irritable. By Thursday he blew his whole pay check gambling. His
meth psychosis lasted Fri- Sun... We live in the same building
but not together (I put him out a year ago). I'm now considering
moving because I can't take the verbal and psychological abuse
anymore. It's been 5 long years. He can only say that it's all
my fault and I deceived him all of this time, led him on. He
takes no responsibility for his actions.
My question to all: When is the best time to leave an addict?
When they're up... or down... or off... or just run like hell
and hope for the best. I am afraid that he will make my life
hell. Should I move and then end it. Should I do it all at the
same time. If I didn't have family close by I would escape to
another state and start live all over, in hiding. |
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| vctry7 |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Could you
please explain what you mean by psychotic episode? I am asking
because I am not familiar with your situation.
My husband was like a monster out of some nightmare for a few
days when he was coming down, but he wasn't psychotic. The
psychosis happened later and was a whole different scene.
Quote:
When is the best time to leave an
addict? When they're up... or down... or off...
If you think that he will get violent then
there is no good time. You just need to leave - the sooner the
better. He will eventually come down and get mad about it
anyway. Do you really want to prolong the misery by staying in a
relationship with someone you are scared to break up with?
Trying to wait until he is not high is like flipping a coin.
Heavy addicts usually aren't thinking real clear for a while
high or not.
|
luve
piphany |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Bluerain,
I personally don't think it matters a whole lot as to when, how,
why or even that we leave the addict if it doesn't bum their
high or the money they need to get it. Sad, I know, but think
about it....if it mattered to them what or who we were, they
wouldn't ever touch the shyt again.
And then, there's the issue of ....
1. We didn't cause it
2. We can't control it
3. We can't cure it
and if we think we can....we keep getting sicker
So, if what I write is the truth to you, then whatever and
however you can find peace with in your heart, then that is the
right way, right time for you and you are the only one that
matters right now to you in the relationship |
blue
rain141 |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Let's
see how would I describe these episodes...
It usually starts with how I say something, he hears it as an
attack. If it's not that, it's the fact that I've asked him to
repeat something which turns into "you never listen to me..."
That quickly snowballs in " you don't respect me, you think I'm
stupid, you're a liar, I hate you- you f'ing @#%$."
That's the anger and verbal abuse. After screaming for a while
he will go to his apartment (located near mine) and start
throwing things and slamming doors and screaming on the top of
his lungs. He literally makes the whole building shake. I'm
surprised that no one has ever called the police. In between
that he will call me, screaming and sobbing and the same time...
telling me how he hates me, I'm a @#%$, it's all my fault and
he's going to kill himself because no one care- especially me.
Usually during these episodes, he's paranoid and forgets details
about things that have happened- if I correct him or explain
something he falls apart even faster- claiming that I think I
know everything just because I'm sane and can still remember
things.
It's hell. Does it sound familiar? |
| Penel0pe |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Quote:
When is the best time to leave an
addict?
I see this as similar to what SFJ says
about when we addicts will quit using:
When the pain of using exceeds the pain of getting clean (or
something along those lines..)
So, the best time to leave?
When the pain of staying exceeds the pain of leaving. |
| JUSTCATS |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Quote:
My question to all: When is the best
time to leave an addict?
Please be careful if you are going to
leave him. Addicts can become very dangerous, if they are
whacked out on meth.
I tried to leave my addict one weekend. I told him I am finished
and I walked to the door. He flew off of the balcony and had me
on the ground strangling me, before I even made it out the door.
If it were me, I would be hush-hush about moving, until you are
ready to move, or move without letting him know. But then again,
that is just the freaked out loved one in me speaking, from a
very bad experience. |
| vctry7 |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
I
always left when he was asleep, always. The many times I tried
to leave when he was coming down and after the fight started, it
always ended up real bad. I was choked unconscious during the
last episode. I was six months pregnant.
I tried leaving on the first day a couple of times. He always
convinced me to stay. One week later, I was wishing I hadn't.
If you live in the same building and don't want to move it's
going to be hard to just break up with him and it be over. I
would strongly suggest to find another place to live (don't let
him know where) and then break up with him. |
Macy
stiller01 |
Re: When is the best time
to leave a meth addict?
Quote:
When is the best time to leave an
addict?
Not when is the best time to leave an addict?
But when is a good time for you to leave? You need to leave on
your terms and when its good for you. Not what's good for him. |
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