How to handle your significant other's bad days

sickid1

How to handle your significant other's bad days?

I try my best when she's having a shyttie days. sometime I think maybe I don't understand her level of addiction. She shot, I've always been scared of needles, cuz one of my friends growing up. The needle totally changed him, & that image always keep away from the needle. That's why I had so much trouble admitting to myself that I was a tweeker.
I don't think I'm dealing with her cravings the right way or something. I need some advice, let me know of any good ideas. She's been doing great these last few weeks, some days better than me.

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silly
veronica

Re: How to handle your significant other's bad days?

Just thought I'd bring this back to the top - help from other addicts who have been through recovery?

sickid1 - what recovery are the two of you going through? Outpatient? Meetings? I know it's said a lot on here - and I know from my own experience in loving an addict -- until those underlying issues are addressed and resolved, there is always that chance of relapse. It's not just a matter of abstaining.

Thoughts and prayers headed your way -- Karen

imlostinky

Re: How to handle your significant other's bad days?

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I don't think I'm dealing with her cravings the right way or something.

They aren't yours to deal with- they are hers.
Perhaps she isn't dealing with her cravings the right way.

Are there things you can do?
Sure- the main thing is nothing, just listen when she is ready to talk.
Reassure her that just because she feels like using doesn't mean she has to.

Other than that, it is ours. Par for the course.
It didn't happen overnight , won't fix overnight.

Do I think it can be more difficult to quit when someone has shot up?
Yeah I do-
I snorted, it sucked - but I don't remember having the rough go to the extent my sister did .
My husband smoked and it was harder for him to quit than what it had been when he snorted.
We were talking about this the other day and he said if someone who make a cigarette than tasted like meth , it would be easier for people to quit.
Because for him, he craved that taste.
I think it is similar with needles- there is a double addiction.
One to the meth, another to the needles.
I know for my sister, she had to go to rehab for a 12 week in treatment program to get where she could quit.

I know now, some 10 years later, she says how she stays clean is to not be around it at all.
That even now , if it was in her face, she'd do it.

The cravings will ease- the bad days will level out.
There is no way past it but through it.
It won't be easy. But it will get easier.