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Is husband
lying to me about meth usage?
My
husband has been lying to me for the past 4 years or more?? about
his involvement in meth. We had our first baby in 2001 and I caught
him with paraphanalia twice during that time period. I found a
plastic baggie and glass pipes in a Crown Royal Bag that he said was
one of his friends, not his and then when I was 5 months along with
our first child we had went out of town on a little weekend vacation
shopping for our new baby and when we got home I found a glass pipe
in the truck and a broken down straw and when I confronted him about
this he stated it was his brothers, we had borrowed his brother's
truck because of the extra room and finally when i said I was going
to ask his brother about it he admitted it was his. He has had a
couple of friends get in trouble with manufacturing meth and has
associated with people that I know do the stuff. We live in a small
town so its hard to get away from it...it seems like everyone is
doing it or has done it at some point in their life. Anyway, I have
found other things in his truck or around the house that I have been
suspicious of. I found aluminum foil that was hidden in the manual
book of his truck, a couple of plastic baggies over the past 4 years
when I had been doing the laundry, and then the last straw was when
I was pregnant with our second child this past winter he had done
meth when he went christmas shopping with a friend who is also known
for doing drugs. I have forbid him from having any contact with this
individual but I still don't believe he is staying away from
him...the guy only lives a mile from our home and his my sister's
ex-boyfriend. To complicate things, his face has been extremely
broke out for the past 3 1/2 years, he has been picking at his face,
arms, legs saying that he has ingrown hairs but when i say he needs
to go to a dermatologist he says it is way too expensive and he
doesnt have time...he does work a lot of hours at his job but in my
heart I think he is on this stuff. He is ruining his complexion, he
will pick at his face until he removs skin and is bleeding. Then the
past 3 months he has supposedly been bitten by spiders or some kind
of insect on his legs that have gotten infected to the point that he
has had to go to the emergenccy room and to the dr several times and
the last episode was just 2 days ago. I think he just picks at
himself until he gets an infection and then blames getting bit by
something, this has never happened before so its strange behavior to
me. He does seem to be more irritable, anxious and when i confront
him about using meth he denies he has a problem and the last time he
done it was 8 months ago. I just don't believe it. I think he is on
it now. I have threatened to take my kids and leave him and he just
cries and begs me to stay and promises me he doesnt have a problem.
How can I be sure???? I need help, please!!!! Thanks.
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